The magical garden

Hi everyone!

I've got some pretty pictures to share with you! So I went to visit Montreal Botanical Garden with my mom. I must tell you that it was far more than what I expected. :O I paid 25$ but it is good for two visits.

Enjoy the pictures :D

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So that was pretty much during the daylight. It is absolutely gorgeous. On my second visit, there was also an interesting event but it was after sunset. :) Welcome to the Chinese palace!!!

 

 

Enter the dragon!!! :O



 



 





 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I was a little worried that the pictures would be low quality because it was night but I am sooo happy it turned out nice. They are nice pictures but it cannot replace the experience of seeing it with your own eyes. So if you live nearby Montreal, do yourself a favor. :) So I hope you enjoyed this post as it is different from my usual rambling. I also ordered a usb converter so I can transfer my cellphone's pictures in my computer but it will take a while. =_= Party is over and it is studying time. Have a nice week! :D



 

 

 



Sad romance part 2 (finale)

Hi everyone,

I know it has been almost two weeks since last post. Damn! I am just sooooo lazy! =_= But I know I shouldn't because this is the only way to give updates to my friends who are busy. Many of them work, go to school, or are raising children. One of them just gave birth to a little girl not long ago. ;) So I know she must be super busy and I content enough with her reading my blog.

 

So few things happened lately and most of it is related to that guy. If you have no clue what I am talking about, then you should read the post before this one. Anyways, I made him clear that I was not interested into romantic relationships for now and that I wish him good luck for finding someone that suits him well. He's like "Ok! I get it." But apparently, he doesn't get it at all because I received one last message from him written: "Do you want the truth? I really miss you sweet soft voice." @_@ That was really awkward to me and I don't know how to reply to this except for "Leave me alone or you will get my foot right your face." I ignored his message.

 

The next day, I was hanging out with Sue. We ate at a restaurant, having a nice conversation until I get a phone call. I check my phone and guess who called! Mr. Creep! She kind of noticed my facial expression and I told her the story. She pointed out interesting facts which I will write at the end of this post. So I ended up ignoring his call and few others as well that day.

 

Surprisingly, he doesn't call anymore. Maybe he is fed up by how I am ignoring him. But I am glad I experienced this because I just keep on learning. From what Sue told me, guys think differently from girls.

 

-When we politely reject you, then it means that you are officially rejected. Like when I say that I don't want to be in a relationship right now, it means that I don't want to be in a relationship with YOU or you are simple not my type. Please get it right. -_-

 

-If I say that "I don't want to be in a relationship right now . Please give me some time.", then it means that I do need more time to reconsider this and there's a certain glimpse of hope for you. In other words, I am interested in you but I have to make sure we are truly compatible. Let's hang out more to find out.

 

-The reason girls are not brutally honest is because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying "You are not my type." or "I don't like you.".

 

-If you to call the girl 5 times to finally get a response from her, then she is reluctantly being polite because you are calling way to much.

 

-If you being romantic to her but she doesn't respond to you with the similar romantic tone, *lol* she doesn't like you and there's a high chance that she finds you creepy.

 

So next time a guy ask for my number, I am going to keep calm and say "NO". You can kiss my a$$...except if the guy is totally my type. :)

Sad romance part 1

Hi everyone,

Every issue I had seems to be solved one by one and I must say that I feel extremely relieved especially regarding this guy who's been calling me recently. For those who are wondering, you'll have to read the post before the last one I made.

 

Long story short, there was this guy who asked my number in the subway. He mentioned that he just wanted to be friends and that's pretty much about it. So he called me afterwards for the second time and that's when the conversation was making me uncomfortable. Anyways, we talked about random things and he kind of asked personal questions. He asked for my age and I told him that I'm 27. He mumbled to himself "Perfect...". What does that mean? He tells me that he is 32 years old and states that he would like to have a family. I suddenly got shivers when he added that he dreamed twice about me. Oh dear! =_= Why do I get myself into these kind of situations? He then asked me if we can ever meet when I will be free? @_@ I just told him off that I was extremely busy and that I will have to see that.

So he would call me every 2 days or so but I haven't answer his calls because I was at work or simply because it wasn't the right time to talk. I kind of felt bad for ignoring his calls. It's true that I'm not interested in him and the best thing to do would be to ignore him. I talked about this issue to different people and I got different opinions. First person I told was Nix. Straight off, he said that I should just tell him that I'm not interested in him. To tell straight to someone that you have no interest in him is damn harsh. But in the end, rejection and sadness are pretty much paired up together. Nix just told me to not let it get to me.

The second person was my mom. I must admit that I was hesitating because she would probably ask me what is his job status and would try to push me to date him. I even had a nightmare due to all the stress that my mom gave me. I dreamed that my mom found me a young doctor for me to marry with. He is good looking, soft, kind, nice, gentle, and generous. But he has a crippled leg. Somehow, I was really against it and refused to marry him. I even planned to run away but mom paid bodyguards to watch over me. In long term, I don't know why but I ended up accepting the wedding. Anyways, let's go back to our sheeps. I asked my mom advice and she told me that whether I liked him or not, I should answer his calls and talk with him. It's really rude to do such thing. I decided it was ok to exchange numbers and I have to take responsibilities. I must say that she is right. She told me to just explain that I just want to remain friends and nothing more than that. Honestly, I did not expect this from mom.

I did take in consideration what they told me. But I just don't know how to tell the guy that I don't like him. Do I just call him and tell him straight off like that? I wanted to indirectly tell him but didn't know how to do so. That's when I had to contact the first person which is Eva. I'm so glad I did. So she gave me few tips.

1. Ask him about his plans for his future. If he says that he wants a family and children, then I should suggest him to find someone who's coming from the same country as him.

2. Tell him about my own plans for my future. i.e. That I'm not interested in being in a relationship right now, want to get my school diploma, etc.

So she did give me some valuable tips. Two weeks or so have past and this guy keeps on calling. I got a call from him again last night. I thought to myself that it is time to put an end to this. I just can't keep this on going. Maybe he wants to use me for some reason or he truly is mad in love with me. His true motive doesn't really matter. I have no right to play around with his emotions and give him fake hope. So I took my cellphone and decided to respond to his call.

It started with a friendly note. He was during his working break. Apparently, he is saving money to pursue his study here and to make a living. After a long conversation, I decided to ask him about his goals of having a family so I can tell him to find a girl of his own culture. But I didn't even have to ask him. He just told me that he has something to ask and it was just as I expected. He honestly asked me if I was willing to give him a chance to go out with him. He explained that he is looking for a woman who is currently looking to have a family. He wants something serious and stable. To be honest, I was really moved by his honesty putting a side his true motive. It takes a lot of guts to ask a girl out. I was truly moved. I really was. So I decided to cut the crap and be honest with him in return. There's nothing like honesty. No excuses or bullsh*t. So I simply told him that I was in a relationship for a long time. I have put an end to those tiring feelings but I somehow need more freedom and independence for myself. I'm just not ready to be in a relationship yet.

I'm glad the conversation ended in a friendly note. I told him to not feel sad and that he will find a fine woman for sure. I feel so relieved that everything ended well. Just when I feel better, I checked my cellphone not to long ago and I got a missed call. O.o  I opened my cellphone and guess who called! It's him again.... To be continued!

No more helping friends

Hi everyone,

School has started. The same old lectures, the same teacher, same old stuff...I am tired of it already. A lot happened lately but again, there's lack of time to post anything. If I even try to post everything in a single post, it will just be a novel.

 

So some of you might know that I was helping two friends who were in depression. I help people when I can. If it's money that you need, my wallet is open for you. If you are hungry, my fridge is open for you. If you feel sad, there's my shoulder you can lean on and cry. If you are in a pinch and find yourself in the streets, there is a room at my house waiting for you. I help and I don't want anything in return.

 

I am going to skip the details. A friend got dumped by her boyfriend. So for an entire year, I've always been by her side no matter what. I spent long hours writing encouraging emails on facebook, taking her out for activities so she can have her mind focused on something else, more emails written during my busy schedule even when I was in class and let's not forget the long hours on the phone trying to comfort her. What happens? One year later, she crosses path with her ex and she immediately calls out for him, text him, and asks forgiveness from him. All the guidance and advices I gave her, all the time and devotion I have put to help her turned out to be useless. I was sooo pissed off. Why did she have to beg for him? I understand that maybe she might still have feelings for him but she should at least have some dignity for herself. She came to me and asked for my help. So what did I do? I tried reasoning with her and she just tells me off: "You don't understand my love for him." What? "This is just something that me and him can understand." She just dated that guy for a year and I dated my ex for 10 years. She dares to tell me I know nothing?

 

Then there is this other friend who was in need of money. He came to me saying that he was on the verge of committing suicide. I was like what the f*ck. He told me that he doesn't have friends and needs my help. So I told him that he can call me whenever he needs it and I'll try my best to support him morally. On top of that, I also gave him some money. As time goes by, people who know him told me to be careful about him and that he is full of lies. The thing is that I cannot judge people based on gossips. So he calls me often just to chat which I have no problems with. But the more we talk, the more troublesome it becomes and I will explain why. He also has someone else who helped him to pay a debt and he talks behind his back. Are you serious? Trust me on this. When someone helps me for whatever it is, big or small favours, I will remember it for the rest of my life. The last thing I want to do is to give trouble to people who help me. So he is talking bullsh*t about a person he owes. And again, I cannot judge someone based on gossips. Another thing I cannot do is to fake being nice with someone when I actually despise that person. So I was told so many bad stuff about the person he owes and I was questioning myself if it was ok to hang out with him if he was truly a bad person.

I had no other choice but to ask that person myself about all these gossips. I must say that I'm glad that I did because apparently, it all turns out to be false. So obviously he got mad because he helped this guy and then he gets backstabbed. I really can't blame him for that. The next day, the guy who owes me calls me and says that he is disappointed at me.

him: Gloria...you disappoint me these days.
me: What is this all about?
him: Why did you call Jim *fake name to cover the true identity*?
me: What's up with that? I talk with whoever I want. He called me anyways and I answered. What's the problem?
him: Why did you tell him what I told you? He isn't suppose to know any of that.
me: I can't hate him on something which I am not sure if he is truly like what you told me. What am I suppose to do? Fake at being nice with him?
him: You just have to cut contact with him.

I can't believe this. I think that he believes that I'm his bitch and that he can boss me around. What is this? Again, he came to me and asked for my help and now he tells me with who I can be friends with? What gives him the right to tell me what to do? This is my life and I hang out with whoever I want. I don't owe him anything. Anyways, my conversation with him went a little further and I think he gets my message. Since then, he never called me and I have no clue if he is also making up gossips behind my back to other people.

Both these people have literally forced me to go into a bathtub full of sh*t. I am extremely disgusted to the bones. It's unbelievable. I don't expect anything in return but all I am asking is peace and not making me mad. So at the end of the day, all the tables are turned against me and I get blamed for everything. But now that I think about it, I do not regret it and especially that money. I bought myself some valuable experience. I am so sorry to say this but I am done helping friends. I am NOT helping anyone anymore except for few ones which I know will never treat me like this. It's really over. My help is not appreciated and I believe they could even pull my head off from my body and step on it. Don't get me wrong! I will continue to help people but it will rather be people I don't know or strangers. I'll buy food and give it away to homeless people. They don't need to recognize my face and at least, they will be happy with the food given.

Moral of story: Before jumping in a situation to help someone, think twice. Even if they beg you. Sometimes, it's just not worth your effort and they won't even recognize your help. Your resources may be wasted and your reputation tarnished. That's one hell of a good lesson I learned for myself.

Have a nice weekend! :)