I live well and I have everything I need. To be honest, my mom helps me financially. She pays my school tuitions, she pays my clothes, ...and all my spendings. Why is that? Because my family values education a lot. If I ever asked my mom if I could spend my allowance for a manicure, I'm sure she would gladly give me the middle finger. So she helps me with what is necessary. Of course she would buy some stuff from time to time which isn't necessary that she judges ok like nice watch for example or giving me permission to watch a movie with my friends. Of course I have to ask her because it's HER money so she decides. But if it's something beyond that like a brand handbag, I would have to pay it myself. When is that going to happen? When I get a decent job of course. But why can't I get a part time job? Because, once again, education is important so they just wanted me to focus on my studies. I'm super glad I got nice parents who care about my future. Trust me, I will always be grateful to them and I will give them more in return. Now that we're done with this little introduction to 'how I get my stuff paid', let's dig in the real topic.
When I need money, be it in a pinch for whatever reason it is, I will ask my mom. If we can't afford it,we would postpone it or find a way somehow. She is not an atm machine to me but she is the closest one in my family and I know I can count on her although it doesn't happen often. When my computer broke down, I didn't have a choice but to kindly ask her to buy me a new one. That being said, this doesn't go around for everyone. Almost every girl I know aren't shy to ask their parents when they need money. However boys are diffenrent. Why?
I had a friend of mine which his parents decided to live in different country but he has to stay in Canada. So after a while, all the money saved up will decrease after paying all the bills. So he found a job for his financial expenses. But working and going to school at the same time is very difficult. In fact, it was difficult for him. When his parents call him and ask him if he needs money, he says no. Why? Why can't you be honest with your parents and tell them your difficulties? You need to focus on your studies. Just cut the crap already. @_@ Paying your rent, food, car, school fees on your own is not easy. I believe it's ok to ask money from them if they allow themselves to help you. Why can't you accept it? Here's their answer: My parents don't make a lot of money and I don't want to bother them. I want to do this on my own. Dude! You cannot be on your own yet without a decent job. You want to act cool? Do it once you are done with school. You can pay them back later if it bothers you that much. I just don't understand. So you'd rather struggle on your own and take full responsabilities like an adult? Nonsense! Cut tbhat crap, take money from your parent, finish your studies, and pay them back with a ticket to the Bahamas.
Like it isn't enough, I know someone else who has a large amount of debt to his credit card bill. That's an ouch big time. The number of his debt is in the 4 digits. His pendings are mostly his school, few spendings with his friends, and some bills. The thing is he lives with his parents. Really! So instead of being straight with his parents and telling them he's not in a position to help them paying the bills, he continues to help his parents. I just don't understand. His mom has some huge dimanond jewelries so I guess they must be pretty much comfortable financially to afford that. Let's say they just want to look awesome on the appearance, maybe it's time for them to sacrifice a little for their son. I mean come on! But i never blme the parents. I blame the boys! Just open your mouth and ask them already. So instead of asking them, he asks money from his friends instead or other people not family related. Woah! That's bad. What's going to happen 2 months later? A little visit to their parents saying: Hello maa'm! Your son owes me money. So I'm here today to pick it up. >_> Save yourself from that embarassment! So you go ask all around town. Everybody knows except for your parents. What do you deserve? A wack on the head.
Alright! When there's no other option and you are really on your own, I understand. But when your parents offer you help or you don't even try to talk about it with them just to act cool, it's just really silly. Why? Most of them told me it's because they want to be independant. Could it be their ego? Whatever it is, I think it's really lame. If I had a son and would act like that to me I would surely repond to him: Shush lil fry! Take this money and pay your cell phone bill. I'm not saying ALL guys act like this just to be/look independant. But for the people who actually do it because they want to be grown ups, I think it's silly. You will be a grown up when you will be ready. It doesn't mean that once you hit your twenties that you are fully an adult. It doesn't matter what your age is but when you need help, just ask. My dad has always told me that I can't perfect something when I'm at school and work at the same time. He's right. There are times when you should keep your pride and keep your head high up. But there's also time when there's no other choice but to raise the white flag. So I can't understand why you guys act like this. It's a paradox.
Anyways, I'm off to bed now. I hope you guys won't get mad at me. I just wich someone could explainwhy. O.o Goodnight!
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