Hi everyone,
I've been kind of distracted lately. My final exams will begin next week and guess what I did last weekend. I planned to study but things didn't turn out the way I wanted. My aunt came over and all we did was shopping! @_@ So she came on saturday with a special guest so I had to be their guide at the mall. The mall closes at 5pm anyways so I could have studied when we got back. However, we ended up eating to a buffet instead. @_@ So when we came back, my stomach was so full and heavy that I fell on my bed. XD The same goes for my aunt so she decided to sleep over and do more shopping the next day with the family. =_= I'm so screwed. Not only I haven't studied but I gained weight from the buffet. lol Oh well! It's once in a while. I still have plenty of time to catch up with my books if I get motivated. I got my tip to lose weight so it won't be a problem. :)
So it has been a while now since the horrible event hapenned...7 months already? What event am I talking about? The break up of course. So I dated this guy for 9 years. I had dreams, ambitions like children, buying a house,...until the fairy tale ended. So I will share my experience and how I dealt with the situation in order to sort of help anyone of you who are going through this.
Week 1
The first day was the apocalypse. It was the afternoon and I met Sue at downtown. I didn't know what to do. I didn't want to go home yet with my face all read and wet from tears. I was simply in disbelief and I told myself that everything will be fine in the next few hours. There must be a mistake. So the first week, it was hell. I sort of isolated myself in my room and wanted to be alone. I cried every night thinking about the past and how to solve the problems or to get the relationship fixed. Everyone in my household was sick worried. I couldn't eat or drink anything. I just didn't have the appetite and every time I tried to swallow food, it was somehow stuck in my throat. I really felt miserable. I thought I would never be happy again. How am I going to overcome this? Am I going to be ok? How will my future turn out? I was thinking and crying all the time.
Week 2
Reality hitted really hard on me like a slap the face. There are things which are totally broken and can't be fixed. That's when I realized that I should stop crying. While you are weeping your tears, your ex is having a good time. So why would you regret the past when others don't even care? The first person who took me out was Sona when I wasdone being a hermit. Few days later, I met up with Melissa and Nixon. It was still painful but my friends kept me distracted. Like it or not, I tried to smile although I wanted to cry. I ate normally but not as a glutton when I was with my ex. -_- So I ended up losing 8 pounds.
Week 3
It wasn't that bad anymore. I watched dramas to keep myself busy and I would go out a lot. The key was to always do something. As soon as I end up doing nothing, I think again. So when my friends were busy, I pulled out my old Final Fantasy 8 game. I still cried but less. I had some nightmares now and then. I avoided picking up my ex's calls.
Week 4
Love. Huh? Say what? Oh yeah you heard me! :D I fell in love with someone else. Alright...it was just a crush. Dates? Maybe. However it only lasted for a short time. Yes it was short but it was real. It didn't work out but it did make me smile because it shows there's hope.
Summary
I think I finally got over it at 100% after a month or so. Are there any feelings left? Nope! The only thing that remained was nostalgia. I can't forget the 9 years of relationship. There are some good memories that I can't forget and the laughs we had. I remember when we were in high school. I would call it the 'good old days'. Do I still keep contact with him? I'm not going to lie. Yes I do. We do call each other on a monthly basis or less just to get an update on each other. I know some of you would be thinking 'Gloria! How can you still be nice with him after all he did to you?'. Well I guess it all comes down to each individual. Everyone deals a break up differently. I'm so happy that I was able to overcome this nightmare after a month. If I break up with a guy because it just didn't click, we could still hang out. If I break up with him because he cheated/liked someone else but told me, I would definitely want to break his jaw but we can still keep in touch. If this guy cheats on me, hides it from me, and I learn it from someone else then I would gladly give him the middle finger if he wants to keep in touch with me.
What is important is to not neglect yourself. It doesn't matter how long you've been with your ex. Cry all you need for 2 or 3 weeks but no more. Just think abou it! Life is to short to be wasted on poisoning your life away by crying in the corner of your bedroom. People say time heals. I sort of disagree with it. It all depends on yourself. If you are motivated to move on, you will be able to do it. You must remained happy, positive, and patient. Don't be discouraged! It's not the end but a new beginning instead. Of course it hurts like a b*tch for the first few weeks but you will somehow appreciate your new freedom. You will go out with your friends, meet new people, and you will fall in love again I assure you. Love in just around the corner. So don't resent life. Guys can be jack*sses sometimes but there are exceptions. There are guys who can be truly loyal and spend the rest of his life with you. It does exist. Don't tire yourself looking everywhere because it will come to you. Just let it happen. The same goes for girls to. There are many of them who can't be faithful like there are women who are truly devoted.
Now just think about it this way. Why do people who live in countries where their homes are in the verge of destruction are still holding up to life? They have lost their homes, family members, and loved ones. Why keep on living when there's nothing to eat? There's no rain and no farmable land in some countries but only desert. Why do they live knowing they will die? Because they believe in miracles! Miracles do happen IF you believe in them and do something about it. So if you spend the rest of your life mourning or sulking down, nothing will happen.
Am I happy again? Yes. Will I find love again? I hope so. ^-^ Do I still feel sad? No more. So I hope it will help some of you if anyone is dealing with such situation. Just remember that in order to know happiness you must know pain. I'm going to study some more now. -_- So I hope you enjoyed the post! Take care and have a nice week! :D
This guy truly believes in miracle..i can feel it :D : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W86jlvrG54o&feature=g-hist
Week 1
The first day was the apocalypse. It was the afternoon and I met Sue at downtown. I didn't know what to do. I didn't want to go home yet with my face all read and wet from tears. I was simply in disbelief and I told myself that everything will be fine in the next few hours. There must be a mistake. So the first week, it was hell. I sort of isolated myself in my room and wanted to be alone. I cried every night thinking about the past and how to solve the problems or to get the relationship fixed. Everyone in my household was sick worried. I couldn't eat or drink anything. I just didn't have the appetite and every time I tried to swallow food, it was somehow stuck in my throat. I really felt miserable. I thought I would never be happy again. How am I going to overcome this? Am I going to be ok? How will my future turn out? I was thinking and crying all the time.
Week 2
Reality hitted really hard on me like a slap the face. There are things which are totally broken and can't be fixed. That's when I realized that I should stop crying. While you are weeping your tears, your ex is having a good time. So why would you regret the past when others don't even care? The first person who took me out was Sona when I wasdone being a hermit. Few days later, I met up with Melissa and Nixon. It was still painful but my friends kept me distracted. Like it or not, I tried to smile although I wanted to cry. I ate normally but not as a glutton when I was with my ex. -_- So I ended up losing 8 pounds.
Week 3
It wasn't that bad anymore. I watched dramas to keep myself busy and I would go out a lot. The key was to always do something. As soon as I end up doing nothing, I think again. So when my friends were busy, I pulled out my old Final Fantasy 8 game. I still cried but less. I had some nightmares now and then. I avoided picking up my ex's calls.
Week 4
Love. Huh? Say what? Oh yeah you heard me! :D I fell in love with someone else. Alright...it was just a crush. Dates? Maybe. However it only lasted for a short time. Yes it was short but it was real. It didn't work out but it did make me smile because it shows there's hope.
Summary
I think I finally got over it at 100% after a month or so. Are there any feelings left? Nope! The only thing that remained was nostalgia. I can't forget the 9 years of relationship. There are some good memories that I can't forget and the laughs we had. I remember when we were in high school. I would call it the 'good old days'. Do I still keep contact with him? I'm not going to lie. Yes I do. We do call each other on a monthly basis or less just to get an update on each other. I know some of you would be thinking 'Gloria! How can you still be nice with him after all he did to you?'. Well I guess it all comes down to each individual. Everyone deals a break up differently. I'm so happy that I was able to overcome this nightmare after a month. If I break up with a guy because it just didn't click, we could still hang out. If I break up with him because he cheated/liked someone else but told me, I would definitely want to break his jaw but we can still keep in touch. If this guy cheats on me, hides it from me, and I learn it from someone else then I would gladly give him the middle finger if he wants to keep in touch with me.
What is important is to not neglect yourself. It doesn't matter how long you've been with your ex. Cry all you need for 2 or 3 weeks but no more. Just think abou it! Life is to short to be wasted on poisoning your life away by crying in the corner of your bedroom. People say time heals. I sort of disagree with it. It all depends on yourself. If you are motivated to move on, you will be able to do it. You must remained happy, positive, and patient. Don't be discouraged! It's not the end but a new beginning instead. Of course it hurts like a b*tch for the first few weeks but you will somehow appreciate your new freedom. You will go out with your friends, meet new people, and you will fall in love again I assure you. Love in just around the corner. So don't resent life. Guys can be jack*sses sometimes but there are exceptions. There are guys who can be truly loyal and spend the rest of his life with you. It does exist. Don't tire yourself looking everywhere because it will come to you. Just let it happen. The same goes for girls to. There are many of them who can't be faithful like there are women who are truly devoted.
Now just think about it this way. Why do people who live in countries where their homes are in the verge of destruction are still holding up to life? They have lost their homes, family members, and loved ones. Why keep on living when there's nothing to eat? There's no rain and no farmable land in some countries but only desert. Why do they live knowing they will die? Because they believe in miracles! Miracles do happen IF you believe in them and do something about it. So if you spend the rest of your life mourning or sulking down, nothing will happen.
Am I happy again? Yes. Will I find love again? I hope so. ^-^ Do I still feel sad? No more. So I hope it will help some of you if anyone is dealing with such situation. Just remember that in order to know happiness you must know pain. I'm going to study some more now. -_- So I hope you enjoyed the post! Take care and have a nice week! :D
This guy truly believes in miracle..i can feel it :D : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W86jlvrG54o&feature=g-hist
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